YOU! I thought the "I want a bad boy" days was over? Women are still IGNORING good men? What's up with that? So you want him to cheat on you? Oh he needs to be more UN available? I got it, he should be BROKE? A bunch of kids and their mama's is what turns YOU on? If rough necks are still in, I am definitely OUT.
I met her on line. She actually approached me. I get hit on ALL the time. I'm not a bad looking guy. I have little SWAGGER. She seemed nice. We decided to meet for dinner. I will admit, I'm a little shy. It takes me a minute to warm up. I did. We laughed and talked about all types of things. Both of us loved traveling and the water. We had quite a few things in common. I was feeling a connection. She talked about all of the horrible men she had been meeting. I let her vent. She had dealt with a man who cheated. Another dude had lied about his education. She even dated someone who had NEVER lived on his own. I was NOTHING like that. I'm a lead consultant at an IT firm. I own my own home. I also have an investment property. Never been married. No kids. I thought the date went well. When I tried to call her the next day, no response. I figured I would send a text. No response. A few days later, she text me back. "sorry but you are not really my type, take care". I sent this story to offer some advice. Maybe I don't have that EDGE. Yeah I'm a GOOD GUY. But I'M no longer single. Continue to look for your BAD BOY. And YOU will always be......"STILL SINGLE"
I love this story , I fancy myself as a (GOOD GUY) as well , its Shameful that a lot of Sista's want to be Capt. Save a Dude , and when they Meet a Man who has all of his ducks in order, they get scared , thats why i don't feel sorry for these women who get USED or PLAYED when dealing with the (badboys) you knew he wasn't going to wife you in the first place , I have know Respect for a Woman who would Rather be his WHORE then somebodies Wife.
ReplyDeletegreat comment Mr. Lateef!!
ReplyDeleteToo true! I actually had a woman tell me I wasn't thuggish enough? WTF? Really so....... well traveled, well educated, independent, intelligent and good looking isn't good enough?
ReplyDeleteI get it that eveyone has their type and you are entitled to that without question or having to justify your desires. Still when did "thuggish" become a part of the most desirable characteristics in a mate?
What if I didn't want to date you because you weren't sexy enough or freaky enough in bed or hell if that really wasn't your hair?
It is a matter of choice; but if thug is your choice, quite frankly you deserve the drama that comes with it!
A good dude!
"Girl, you're welcome to stop on by.
ReplyDeleteYou know I'll be here, baby
to dry your eyes, to dry your eyes.
But I'm gettin' tired of being that second guy.
Don't you be no fool, baby,
You're about to lose your old standby."
[Stop on By: Bobby Womack]
NOT SINGLE: Unfortunately, good Brothers, like you some others, are viewed as the exception and not the rule in a world that defines Black masculinity as "thug." Keep showing us how it's supposed to be done. Thank you!