COUNTING? Yes I have to admit I'M THE CHICK ON THE SIDE. Its never intended. It just happens. He's my old boo. He calls just to catch up. You decide to meet for lunch. He complains about his relationship. You know how it goes. At first your his counselor. Then your lovers again. I didn't want him back. Men are all the same. Why be number one? You only get hurt. Maybe I am lowering my standards. Or maybe I'm just playing it smart. Being number two has its benefits. I enjoy almost all of the amenities of WIFEY but with no fear of finding out about ME!
It was like 12 in the morning. I couldn't believe he was calling this late. I asked him where was his girlfriend? He didn't respond. We were still good friends. The conversation was innocent. We caught up and decided to have lunch. Over lunch, all he did was complain about her. I listened and tried to be optimistic. I never thought a few weeks later he'd be in MY bed. At first I felt some guilt. Then I thought, "he's not married". Our relationship became pretty routine. We talked all the time. We went out all the time. His girlfriend must have been an idiot. It was like he was my man. He acted like my man. I guess I forgot he wasn't. Out of nowhere, he called and told me that he was getting married. And he was sorry, we couldn't see each other any more. I will admit I was hurt. But I couldn't be angry. Its all apart of the game. SOME girlfriends graduate to wives. But some CHICKS never make it to mistress.
Still Single
I prefer being #1...2nd place is still a loser in my eyes--Sorry!
ReplyDelete"I don't mind when you say that you're going away.
ReplyDeleteI just don't want to be lonely.
And I don't care if we share
Only moments a day.
I just don't want to be lonely."
The Main Ingredient
Red or Green Pill you Live and you Learn !!
ReplyDeleteI've watched sista go through this on more than one occasion and the reflection is all the same... "Why am I good enough to f**k, but not good enough to marry" Having to ask that question of yourself is hard on a sista... Its the Sunk Cost Fallacy- Loss Aversion. Investing and never really gaining.
ReplyDeleteI've met my fair share of women that would rather have a piece of a decent man, even if he is not their own, than no man at all. Maybe they are lowering their standards; maybe they are playing the "game"... whatever the case, most women (not all) overestimate their emotional threshold and are left carrying the proverbial bag.
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