THE FATHER! Women are REAL quick to point fingers. "You need to be a man". "Accept your responsibility." "I didn't make this child by myself." "Well if he didn't want a baby, he should have strapped up". "Well it doesn't matter now, the baby is here". "You need to take care of YOUR child". She said it was HIS! She KNEW all ALONG! THIS is where calling a woman a BITCH FITS!
She wasn't my WOMAN. She was someone I was seeing. We knew some of the same people. I would see her at the same spots. One homecoming party, we got to talking. She was cool. After that night, we would hook up every now and then. No issues. No DRAMA. It was a regular day at work. She calls and says she's pregnant. I hadn't seen her in about two months. It could've been mine. WE discussed OUR options. She said she wasn't haven't IT. I offered to pay. She said it wasn't necessary. A few more conversations and I thought that was it. Almost a year later, I HEAR that she had a baby. I didn't think much about it. I graduated with my degree in Criminal Justice. I was working as a police officer. My life was falling in place. About three years after, SHE calls again. The conversation was cool. I even asked her about the baby. She NEVER said anything. Another year passes, she calls. She wants to talk to me about something. I was curious and confused. I told her she could come by my crib. She did. She changed HER life four years ago. SHE changed MINE in a few minutes. You asked; "What type of man denies his child"? A better question is; "What type of WOMAN don't know WHO her child's father is? Still Single
STILL SINGLE: With a career in the criminal justice system, how many times have you heard that the perpetrators did not have fathers in their lives? There is only ONE victim in your situation and that is the CHILD, not you. Oprah Winfrey says that her parents had sex ONE time, but she attributes her father's intervention as turning her life around. It appears that the woman is asking for a DNA test. (You imply that she doesn't know who the father is but she came to you.) I think anger and fear are strangling you. Pray about it and get the test. If it's yours, thank God that you have something positive to offer this child. If not, a DNA test is a small price to pay for a clean conscience. Good luck!
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