A PUMPKIN! Commitment Phoebe's are unique individuals. They will have a myriad of relationships that may "appear" to be monogamous. They live in vague, grey status. You talk everyday. You've met their family. You can even stay in their home when they're not. Casual affairs can often mimic a REAL commitment. You want to move the relationship to the next level. You think your the exception to HIS rules, but the rule is: If he's calling YOU BOO, he's calling somebody else PUMPKIN.
The man was infuriating! I mean we had a strong connection. We talked almost everyday. We knew each other so well, but yet we are NOT a COUPLE. Whats up with that? I know all the signs of a commitment phoebe. He never says I LOVE YOU. He never says I'm his GIRL FRIEND. Whenever I try to have the TALK, he changes the topic. I get it. I decided to give him an ultimatum. "Either commit to me or I'm done"! He looked at me and grinned. "I'm serious". He told me that maybe I should take some time and think about my decision. I agreed. I went on a dating marathon. I met alot of nice guys who were all ready to offer me more. "He doesn't know what he's missing". A few weeks later I saw him out with another woman. I don't know why I was so surprised. I guess I thought he would actually miss me. A few days later he called. "Yes and how are you"? I was going to play it cool. A few minutes later he picked me up and we went to the movies. I know! Maybe we both need therapy. Still Single.
Red or Green Pill you live and you Learn , why do you need a title, if both people are Happy , its know need to give each other Labels , I say if its working don't break it !
ReplyDelete@Anonymous, did you miss something, both people aren't happy one wants more and other has enough! Good grief no wonder we're still single... Some men are just clueless.
ReplyDeleteWomen take the hints and save yourself from being humiliated and used!
Dang wish I woulda read this 2 months ago..he started out telling everyone I was his "new boo" aka still single LOL
ReplyDeleteI dated a man for over a year and he moved in with me. He was a computer tech, so I thought nothing of it when he was always on his PC or had to run out to handle "emergencies" for his job. I was proud of him getting his life together. He started calling me "Boo." I learned that's what people called each other in chat rooms. I started searching the Web and found him on sites like Chocolate Singles posing in front of a boat (as if he owned one). When I asked him about it, he told me he'd met a woman on a dating site and was in love. I was demoralized and angry at myself for being so trusting, supportive and stupid. I took a long time to work on me. Ironically, years later he found me on Facebook and wrote (with exclamation points) how glad he was to find me, that he was single, wanted me to send photos and to be his FBF. When I saw his photo and no longer felt anger towards myself, I knew that I had healed. I did not want his FB friendship or anything else. I'm still single, still working on me and I am blessed. LADIES: Know your worth and let it start with demanding respect for your name. There's no guarantee that any relationship is forever, but even if it doesn't work out, the day will come when he will remember you and your name.
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